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宝宝受不了老师批评，排斥去幼儿园，聪明妈妈8个字巧妙化解

发布日期：2024-08-23 03:26:21编辑：网络收集

朋友的女儿果果，在幼儿园里因为中午午睡不睡觉，被老师批评。从此一到周末，果果吃完饭，就央求妈妈说不想睡午觉。对果果而言，在幼儿园睡午觉，已经成了她的一项心理负担。

如今，据幼儿园老师的批评已经过去将近一个月了，果果这种情况还是没有好转，在家拒绝午睡，每天去幼儿园前担心睡不着被老师批评。

朋友对此很是着急，忧心忡忡的向我求助，问我为何果果被幼儿园老师批评了一次，就反应这么大？怎样才能帮女儿缓解这种状态？

孩子受批评不想去幼儿园，是怎么回事？

其实，幼儿园里，类似果果这种，因为各种原因，被老师批评而产生心理负担，或者不想去幼儿园的孩子，并不少。

幼儿园老师批评孩子，本意不过是纠正孩子的错误，只要孩子改正了就没事了。

可是有些孩子却因为老师一句批评的话，就变得沮丧，畏缩，甚至排斥去幼儿园。孩子这种表现是典型的遇到困难就逃避的行为，就是抗挫折能力低，即”逆商低“。

孩子逆商低，与家长平时的错误的养育及教育方式有很大的关系，比如过度保护，不让孩子独立面对挫折，导致抗挫能力差；再比如孩子没有经历过自己努力战胜困难的过程，不了解自己的能力，所以面对挫折容易退缩。

当孩子遇到困难时，有些父母除了给孩子以安慰，就是教孩子忽视老师的批评。其实，父母的这种做法，并不能真正解决孩子的问题。

想要彻底解决孩子这种状态，最重要的是引导孩子找到问题的原因，并积极寻求解决的办法。

对于果果来说，她最大的问题就是没有自信，因为在她的意识里老师批评的都是不喜欢的孩子，所以老师也不喜欢自己了，自己如果午睡的时候再睡不着，老师就会更不喜欢自己，所以就更害怕面对午睡。

对于这类对自己缺乏信心的孩子，我们父母要做的就是告诉孩子8个字！

1）我能

训练果果多说”我能“，对增强她的自信心和和抗压能力都很有帮助。而作为父母，我们就要给孩子制造这种能多说”我能“的环境，从而使她从成功处理困难的经历中获得信心。

比如，让果果独立的做一些事情并解决过程中出现的问题，做家务，参加社会实践、参与家庭决策等等，都是不错的办法。

当孩子遇到困难时，不要立刻帮他们解决问题，而是鼓励他：”我能试一试“；当孩子完成问题时，让孩子自己总结解决问题的过程，并鼓励他：“我能做到”。

同时，培养孩子遇到困难主动寻求帮助的行为，而非只是说”我不能”。如果孩子取得了进步，哪怕是一点点的小进步和努力，都要积极的给予鼓励，培养孩子”我能进步“的正面心态。

作为父母，还要注意给孩子足够的信任和支持，让孩子感受到”我能被父母信任“。长此以往，孩子的自信心和抗压能力，自然而然的就会得到提升。

2）我是

研究显示：具有高自我效能感的孩子更有自信和动力去面对各种挑战。

通过积极的自我评价培养孩子的自信，是提高抗压能力的重要环节。语言的正面激励可以帮助孩子内化一个“我是能够的”的自我概念。

”我是“就是让果果对自己有积极的自我评价！通过父母的肯定和强化，让果果知道，自己是一个什么样的人。

这种自我评价一定要是一个孩子可以为之努力的描述，而不是高不可攀、绝对的描述。比如，我们可以对孩子说：”你是能够坚持下去的““你是懂礼貌的””你是善良的“等等，而不是对孩子说“你是最棒的””你是天下第一厉害的“等此类高不可攀的句子。

因为，我们对孩子的评价越真实越客观，越是有利于孩子树立强大的自信。

3）我有

”我有“表达的是一种主动的姿态，而不是被动的认为“我没有”，可以让孩子看清自己有哪些资源，意识到自己拥有哪些正面的特质，比如，勇气、耐心、毅力等等，这些都是应对困难的主要内在资源。

比如，孩子要知道在关键时刻，要找谁来帮忙，遇到问题时可以找谁来解决，她可以从哪里得到绝对的支持，这些资源储备都可以培养孩子善于利用资源和寻求帮助的能力。

让孩子经常说”我有“，可以帮助孩子意识到自己不仅有短处，也有许多长处和可能，帮助其建立更全面的自我认知，这些正面素质就会成为他抗压的内在资源。

4）我可以

持续鼓励孩子说”我可以“，有助于孩子形成强大的自信心，提升孩子的抗压能力。

我可以自己吃饭，我可以自己睡觉，我可以自己开门，我可以自己把家里打扫干净……

这种”我可以“的语言暗示，有助于培养孩子的自我效能感，可以让孩子正视自己的能力，相信自己是有能力达成目标的。

每个小的成功，都可以帮助孩子积累自信心。”我可以“是一种积极的心态，聚焦在孩子的能力上，而非问题的困难上。孩子经常说”我可以“而不是“我不能”，可以帮助他们关注自己的进步和成长，从而主动寻找解决问题的办法，而不是退缩。

所以，对于果果不敢面对午睡的问题，我们应该多鼓励她说”我可以慢慢试一试“，而不是立刻替她解决，或者帮她逃避。

【最后写给家长的话】

刚上幼儿园的孩子，难免遇到这样那样的挫折，也难免因为抗挫能力低，出现害怕做某件事，某个老师，或者不想去幼儿园的情况。

作为父母，我们除了进行日常的教育和引导外，更重要的是培养他们的逆商，培养他们解决困难的能力，这将有助于他们更顺利的度过幼儿园，以及未来的学生生涯！
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