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在幼儿园被欺负过的孩子,都有这个特点,家长一定要警惕

发布日期:2024-08-21 02:54:23编辑:网络收集

跟闺蜜闲聊时,听她说了一件让人气愤的校园霸凌事件。

事情是这样的,闺蜜女儿的同学舜舜,放学回到家,告诉妈妈说后脑勺有点疼,因为后脑勺比较特殊,且起了一个大包,舜舜妈有点不放心,第二天就联系幼儿园查了监控。

结果竟发现,女儿后脑勺上的包,竟然是被一个同学故意按在学生储物柜上磕的,而女儿却说是闹着玩碰的。

经过一番调查,舜舜妈总算弄清了整个事件的来龙去脉,原来女儿自打上幼儿园开始,就一直被班里一个叫朵朵的女孩排挤。

朵朵不仅自己不跟舜舜玩,还联合班里其他小朋友一起排挤舜舜。舜舜为了融入他们,交到朋友,就各种讨好她们。

比如,舜舜妈在监控里就发现,舜舜经常把自己喜欢的铅笔、橡皮等文具送给她们,还经常配合她们玩自己不喜欢玩的游戏。

还有这次头上磕的包,要不是妈妈去查监控,舜舜也不打算给妈妈说实话,就怕妈妈找老师殃及朵朵,失去所谓的“好朋友”。

气愤的舜舜妈,向幼儿园提出了两点要求:

第一,要求幼儿园,将朵朵霸凌舜舜的监控视频在各班级播放,并要求老师告诉全体同学,这是霸凌行为,是不被允许的;

第二,要求朵朵以及她的父母,当众给舜舜赔礼道歉;

第一点要求幼儿园已经落实到位,但朵朵的妈妈却坚持不赔礼道歉,并且还说这是孩子之间的事情,与自己无关。

听到这里,虽然我十分生气,但冷静下来仔细想想也合情合理。

毕竟,孩子是父母的影子,朵朵既然能做出这种霸凌其他学生的事,很大一部分原因与其父母的教育方式和态度有关。

我们做父母的,不能控制他人的行为,要求别的家长教育好自己的孩子,但可以在自己的范围内尽好教育子女的责任,避免他们像舜舜一样,在遭遇隐形霸凌时只知道盲目讨好,而不懂得如何正确应对与保护自己。

因为相比在孩子受欺负时挺身而出,尽早培养孩子自我保护的能力,才可以真正的帮助他们,在面临欺凌时能够勇敢地加以应对,远离伤害。

01 告诉孩子:远离这几类朋友

现实生活中,大多数隐形霸凌,往往发生在那些被称为“毒朋友”的关系之中。

所以,作为家长,一定告诉孩子,如果身边有以下几种朋友,一定要尽早远离。

1)控制欲强的朋友

如果交了控制欲很强的朋友,那我们的孩子可能就不再自由了。这类朋友可能会限制孩子的自由、占用他的时间,逼他做坏事,甚至犯罪。

就像电影《少年的你》里,陈念就是被同学魏莱逼的,不得不跟她一起做坏事。所以,我们得小心,别让孩子跟这样的朋友走得太近。

2)嫉妒心重的朋友

嫉妒是一种自然的情感反应,是人性的一部分,但大多数人都能控制它,不让它伤害自己。

可有些人就做不到,这类孩子看你学习好、受老师喜欢、家境也好,就心生嫉妒。

就忍不住跟你争,说你的坏话,甚至排挤打压你,从而导致孩子产生自卑或者退缩的心理。

3)搬弄是非的朋友

有些朋友总是喜欢制造谣言、挑拨关系,这种行为很不道德,还会影响孩子的价值观。更糟糕的是,这样的朋友还会对孩子的心理健康和人格发展造成坏影响。

现实中,很多孩子就是被这样的朋友带坏了。

比如,有的孩子被朋友造谣,名声变差了,人际关系也紧张;有的孩子听了朋友的坏主意,做了坏事,甚至走上了犯罪的道路。

所以,我们要小心这样的朋友,别让孩子被他们带偏了。

4)有不良行为与情绪不稳定的朋友

有不良行为的朋友,自身就缺乏道德约束和对他人的尊重,很容易将孩子作为欺凌的目标,或者将孩子引入歧途,参与各种不良活动,从而直接暴露孩子于霸凌的风险中。

而情绪不稳定的朋友,可能会频繁地发泄情绪,对孩子进行无端的指责或攻击,使孩子长期处于紧张和焦虑的状态。

5)强迫孩子做危险事的朋友

在某些青春题材的影视作品中,有些孩子受到不良朋友的影响,被强迫参与一些高风险的活动,如非法赛车、极限运动等,这些活动往往伴随着极高的危险性,一旦发生意外,后果不堪设想。

强迫孩子做危险事的朋友,往往不顾及孩子的安全和健康,只追求自己的利益或刺激。这种行为违背了保护孩子、尊重孩子生命安全的基本原则。

作为父母,为了让孩子避免隐形霸凌,也为了孩子的人身安全,一定要引导他们远离强迫自己做危险事的朋友。

02 如何判断孩子是否正被隐形霸凌?

美国教育发展中心的研究指出:64%的孩子被霸凌后不会告诉任何人。孩子默默承受霸凌,让负面情绪肆虐,变得孤僻、自卑、养成讨好型人格。

因此,作为父母,我们务必要掌握识别孩子,是否正在经历隐形霸凌的技巧,确保他们的身心健康与安全。

1)关注孩子的情绪变化

隐形霸凌往往会对孩子的心理造成负面影响,使他们感到沮丧、焦虑、孤独或愤怒

如果孩子突然变得沉默寡言、情绪低落或易怒,我们需要警觉,并尝试与孩子沟通,了解他们的感受和经历。

2)观察孩子的社交行为

如果孩子开始避免与同学交往,拒绝参加集体活动,或者频繁更换朋友,对上学表现出强烈的抵触情绪,这都可能是遭受隐形霸凌的迹象。

此外,我们还可以注意孩子是否经常使用社交媒体或手机,与某些人频繁交流,这可能是在寻求支持或躲避现实。

3)定期与孩子沟通

研究发现:那些在家庭中得到充分支持和教育的孩子,在面对隐形霸凌时往往能够更快地恢复过来,减少心理创伤。同时,这些孩子也更容易建立起积极的人际关系,避免再次成为霸凌的目标。

因此,父母不仅要常与孩子沟通,让孩子感受到家的温暖与安全,还要教他们认识隐形霸凌,学会应对之策。

比如,告诉孩子什么是隐形霸凌,遇到时该如何应对?这样,不仅可以帮助孩子提高防范意识,还能让他们在遇到类似问题时,能迅速作出正确反应。

因为只有我们的孩子真正了解了关于隐形霸凌的基本常识,以及应对各种隐形霸凌的解决方案,才能远离霸凌,健康成长!

【最后写给家长的话】

相比显形霸凌,隐形霸凌更不容易被父母发现,孩子也更不愿意,甚至不知道跟父母说。

所以我们作为父母,想让孩子远离隐形霸凌的伤害,就要细心观察,深入了解。

成为他们最坚实的后盾,让他们知道无论何时何地,都可以毫无顾虑地向我们倾诉心中的困惑和痛苦。

只有这样,我们才能真正守护孩子的心理健康,让他们在成长的道路上更加自信、坚强。

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