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家长如何正确和老师沟通?(建议收藏)

发布日期:2024-08-31 00:22:02编辑:胖虎爱撩妹

我的朋友小段,最近心事重重,老是拿着手机欲言又止。原来,她儿子马上要上一年级,她加了班主任的微信,想先联系一下,说说孩子的情况。
 
可又担心会不会打扰老师,会不会说错话给老师留下不好的印象。这种感觉,就像要上学的人是她而不是她儿子,紧张而纠结。
 
其实,新生家长,和老师保持良好交流是很有必要的,能够让老师了解孩子,了解家长的想法,教育时候能有的放矢。
 
那么,和老师交流的时候,有哪些注意事项呢?现在就来为大家揭秘。
 
 
01 家长要正确、真诚地表达感受,避免负面情绪
 
老师也是人,有吃喝拉撒、七情六欲,所以和普通人交流的那些法则,也是通用的。当一位家长真诚地和老师沟通,老师是可以感受到这种真诚的。
 
一年级新生家长很容易焦虑。孩子在适应期难免会有问题,家长急于帮孩子解决却无从下手,焦虑就产生了。焦虑一旦产生,就会引发负面情绪。
 
我遇见过一位新生妈妈,她女儿内向安静。同桌则是一个活泼好动的男生,经常捉弄她女儿。开学一周后,女儿哭着不肯去学校,说同桌会欺负她。
 
妈妈一听就生气了,一方面很心疼,另一方面觉得老师怎么给我女儿安排了这样一个同桌。她就打电话给老师说,同桌不好,会影响孩子学习,能不能换一个。
 
老师表示同桌都是按照身高、视力等方面综合安排的,一般一学期换一次。这位新生妈妈更生气,心想这老师怎么这么不靠谱,我女儿都哭着不肯去学校了,还不解决。
 
如果妈妈继续这样和老师沟通,势必带着情绪,认为老师不负责任。后来,她听了我的建议。放下对老师的成见,就事论事,说了女儿和同桌交往中存在的问题,女儿回家后的情绪,真诚地表达了一位妈妈对孩子的担心。
 
第二天上学,老师关注了她女儿和同桌的沟通情况,找同桌谈话。原来,同桌很活泼,好几次和女儿说话,女儿都不回应,所以他会动动她的头发,扯扯衣服来引起她的注意。
 
老师做了适当的干预,同桌俩的沟通好了很多。女儿开心地上学了,妈妈也放心了。她给老师回了电话,说之前自己太着急了,生怕女儿吃亏,才会直接要求换座位。
 
所以,家长首先要学会正确地表达想法,真诚地去沟通,一旦发现自己带有情绪了,就要暂时停止。
 
要知道,如果家长的负面情绪滋生,容易和老师产生矛盾,不管矛盾是否激烈,受到影响的,一定是我们的孩子。
 
 
 
02 关注具体的事情,积极反馈结果
 
本文开头提到的我的朋友小段,犹豫着要不要和老师沟通。我建议她先想清楚,沟通的目的是什么,最想让老师了解孩子的是什么。
 
如果我们担心孩子,却说不出具体原因,和老师联系只能说“希望老师多照顾”之类的话,老师也会摸不清头脑,她只能告诉你,我会尽己所能,照顾好全班。
 
小段仔细梳理了一下,她担心的是,儿子学习节奏挺慢的,在幼儿园和其他孩子一起做手工,玩游戏,总是会慢半拍。但优点是,就算比较慢,也会专注完成。
 
她怕到了小学,孩子学得慢,老师会不耐烦。厘清了自己的想法后,小段坦然地给老师打了个电话,老师表示非常理解,孩子的学习节奏存在个体差异,需要成年人给出更多耐心。
 
小段心里踏实了。这样具体有目的的沟通,既表达了家长的担心,也让老师对孩子有了初步的了解,是积极有效的。比空洞的一句“老师您多照顾”更有力量。
 
等孩子开学后,也要和老师保持积极沟通。人的注意力有限,孩子的问题也可能不止一个点。尽量一次只专注一个问题,并给出持续反馈。
 
比如,如果孩子的数学学习出现问题,课堂作业错误率很高,这往往是由多种因素造成的,比如听课效率,学习习惯等等,有一个改进的过程。
 
和老师沟通的时候,可以一次聚焦一个点,这次是课堂听课情况,改进一周后反馈给老师,下次再专注课后学习习惯,持续地沟通,会让老师明确时间段内的关注点,减轻老师的负担。
 
时间长了,老师会感受到,这是位用心、很淡定的家长,他很看重老师说的话,一直在配合学校教育。
 
 
 
03 保持适当的距离,不要过度打扰
 
有些家长希望和老师打的火热,而这种“火热”通常带着刻意,因为我的孩子在你手里,所以我拼命奉承你。
 
人与人之间的交往,一旦带着刻意,就会不舒服,容易给老师带来困扰。老师和家长是以孩子为基点的关系,对老师来说,“工作关系”多过“私人情感”。要尊重这样的交流属性,成就健康的“家校关系”。
 
小新妈妈是个热心的全职妈妈,平常空余时间也多。经常邀请孩子的老师周末逛街,吃饭。老师每次都拒绝得很有礼貌。小新妈妈就东想西想,是我的孩子不够优秀,老师不肯出来吃饭?是我太热情,吓到老师?
 
可能,老师只是觉得想要适当保持距离,太过刻意的交往也会让老师不舒服。
 
顺其自然的私人交往,积极配合老师的工作,发自心底的真正的尊重,才是我们对老师的正确态度。
 
最后,不要占用老师太多时间,毕竟老师要面对的是一个班40多位孩子和家长;不要在不恰当的时间联系老师,比如深夜或其他休息时间;学会换位思考,管理好情绪,不要让无效沟通消耗双方的精力。
 
写在最后
 
老师是除了父母之外,对孩子影响最大的人。父母和老师的沟通,是可以直接影响到孩子的学习和成长的。
 
所以,真正的沟通秘籍,就是真诚,正确表达,不带负面情绪;聚焦具体的事情,持续给出反馈;尊重老师,不需要刻意拉近距离。
 
希望可以帮助父母,和老师建立良好的沟通关系,为孩子的成长营造良好的氛围。让家庭和学校之间流淌正能量,成为孩子健康成长的良好助力。
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