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发布日期：2024-07-25 14:42:02编辑：秩名


“教”“养”不分家

 
孩子小的时候，我们大多会把精力放在“养”——只要小家伙吃好、穿好、玩好，不生病，很开心，便一切OK。到2岁左右，当孩子自我意识萌芽，不再那么乖巧时，我们才惊觉教育已迫在眉睫！若我们早一天知了，“教”无需滞后于“养”，那么许多困扰都会灰飞烟灭，甚至根本不会产生。
 
※教育，在早期不该被忽视※
 
根据调查，很多妈妈往往要到宝宝1岁至18个月才开始关注孩子的教育问题，更有甚者，一直要到孩子两三岁之后才意识到教育的紧迫性。
 
但到那个时候，孩子往往已经形成令我们头痛的习惯，想要去除这些习惯，还真不是那么容易的事情。一方面，我们急于“改造”孩子，引发亲子对抗，我们与孩子之间沟通的渠道因此被堵塞；另一方面，沟通不顺畅甚至无效带给我们严重的挫败感，让我们有无能为力的感觉。我们的无能为力也会无形中影响我们与孩子的关系。就算孩子迫于压力，勉强服从，又会带来新的问题，诸如，孩子表面服从，内里对抗，一旦外力消失，他便行为依旧，甚至因补偿性需求而显得更为严重，或者孩子为了适应环境，形成压抑自己的习惯，导致他凡事唯唯诺诺，不敢自主行动，甚至不敢表达自己的想法……无论哪种结果，都不是我们期待的。
 
之所以导致这样的局面，源于我们忽视了早期教育的重要性。而之所以忽视早期的教育，源于我们不了解孩子发展的特点。我们误以为孩子小时候一无所知，是一张白纸，所以“无须”那么早便将教育提上日程。而事实上，不管多小的孩子，都有一颗与生俱来的精神胚胎，他对外部环境的感知、自主学习及自我适应的能力也都远远超出我们的想象，他甚至还是读心的大师。既然如此，我们的一举一动、一言一行，环境中的一切都会对他产生深远的影响。
 
※教育，跳不出养育的圈子※
 
因为不了解环境中的一切都会对孩子产生深刻的影响，我们往往以为，教育是需要刻意而为之的事情，需要特定的时间、特定的事件、特定的方式、特定的对象、特定的……作为支撑。殊不知，正是这众多的“特定”预设了某个框架，让教育变得机械、低效，失去了活性。
 
事实上，教、养无须分家，时时、事事、处处皆是教育的契机，把握这些契机，一切尽在自然而然中。
 
“养”孩子，终归脱不开吃喝拉撒睡。而吃喝拉撒睡，都是教育的契机。换言之，教育，跳不出养育的圈子。只要我们稍微用点心，养育的每个细节都可以涵盖众多的教育元素，让教育变得轻松有趣，如春雨润物，不着痕迹。
 
举例来说，即便是给孩子喂奶这么简单的事情，也是教育的好机会。若妈妈喂奶时心情愉悦，耐心细致，甚至很享受这个喂奶的过程，那么，宝宝自然心情愉悦，安全感十足，有强烈的被爱的感觉，他的心灵就得到一个被滋养的机会。一个有强烈的被爱的感觉的孩子，他的内心更强大，更能勇敢地走向外面的世界，这是他走向独立的基础。相反，如果妈妈情绪恶劣，缺乏耐心，宝宝就变得很焦虑、很恐慌，虽然他还不懂得如何用语言表达自己，但是，他会哭闹、不安地晃动四肢等，以婴儿目前这个阶段能够把握的方式表达他的感受。若妈妈长期如此，孩子就会有不被爱的感觉，他的自我价值感就很难建立，他会因此变得紧张、焦虑、自卑、畏缩……
 
因此，只要我们别把小宝宝当“白纸”，从细节入手，注意我们的一言一行、一举一动，便已经是在教育了。
 
※教养有道，成就父母和孩子※
 
当然，教育还需要涵盖更多的内容，才可以协助孩子成长得更好，并防止各种令人头痛的问题产生，让我们在养育孩子的路上少走弯路，走得更轻松，更自在，充满更多欢乐。
 
这就需要我们以前瞻的眼光看待教育这件事。很多时候，我们可能会是短视的。因为短视，我们在养育孩子这件事上会更多地关注于眼下是否方便，是否轻松随意，而较少关注它可能带来的后果。
 
拿吃饭这件事来说，如果从孩子几个月开始，就养成一家子围坐餐桌前进餐的习惯，并且每次给孩子手里塞点方便抓取的食物，给他喂饭的同时也鼓励他自己进食，那么孩子就会养成很好的进食习惯。就不会出现将来需要追着喂、对抗吃饭、上了幼儿园因为不能自主进食面临各种困扰，或者出现胃口不好甚至因为长年被填塞导致脾胃不和等问题。不仅如此，当我们放手让孩子自己进食时，孩子也因此获得全面的发展。饭菜的色香味，是孩子认知的好素材。无论是否使用工具，以及能否成功地将食物塞进嘴里，对孩子来说都是一个自主探索，总结经验教训，调整进食策略，体会自我价值感，从中获得发展的好机会。给孩子机会，而不是变相地剥夺他成长的机会，是我们能够给予孩子的最好支持。
 
除了尽可能给孩子更多成长的机会，我们还需要一双慧眼，看到平凡小事中隐含的教育契机。就拿性教育来说吧，这是这些年大家谈论比较多也很重视的一个话题。实际上，性教育并非我们想象的，一定要正儿八经地进行。在我们养育孩子的过程中，到处都有性教育的机会。如，处理孩子大小便的时候，给孩子洗澡、更换衣服的时候，性教育可以不着痕迹地进行。若我们尊重孩子的身体，让他意识到，他的每个部位都很珍贵；即便大小便弄脏了衣物，那也是很自然的一件事，无须大惊小怪；因为他的身体很珍贵，所以我们需要用衣物遮盖，不能随意示人，也不可以被人随意抚摸……正是这些小事，带给我们教育的契机，抓住了，我们就无须再找机会刻意去做什么性教育的工作，也不必等到孩子已经面临某些问题才着急忙慌想起性教育的事情。
 
总之，教育不能滞后于养育，“教”与“养”可以齐头并进，你中有我，我中有你。如此，我们才可以多一份淡定，少一分烦恼，让育儿这件事变得更加轻松与自如。
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