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从小“有零花钱”和“没零花钱”的孩子,差距有多大?家长要重视

发布日期:2024-08-22 03:15:07编辑:网络收集

在开始今天的话题前,先问大家几个问题,你家孩子几岁了?他有自己的零花钱吗?如果没有,你现在给他,他会花吗?

先来说说我的情况吧,我是在女儿小学一年级时,开始在她书包的侧兜里放了10元钱,并告诉她这些钱,是我给她的零花钱,她可以自由支配。然而,让我没想到的是,这10元钱在她书包一放就放了将近一年。

经过我仔细观察,我发现她之所以不花这个钱,主要是因为她不知道如何花,不敢花。比如,有好几次我鼓励她去超市买点自己喜欢的东西,她都说不敢单独去收银台交钱。

直到小学二年级有个同学带她一起去文具店买文具,她才用我给她准备了多年的零花钱,买了一个冰激凌。也就是从那天开始,她尝到了零花钱的甜头,开始认识到了钱的重要性……

看到这里,相信很多家长会说,孩子会花零花钱有什么值得炫耀的?这么小就给零花钱,早晚会让孩子养成乱花钱的毛病,等孩子长大了你就后悔去吧!

如果你真的是这么想的!我建议你能认认真真的把本篇文章看完,因为你这种观点,真的可能会害了孩子。

该不该给孩子零花钱?关于这个话题,家长们的意见总是不统一,反正就是公说公有理婆说婆有理。所以,我们今天就暂不争辩谁对谁错,而是对比下“有”与“没有”零花钱孩子间的区别在哪里?

1)没有零花钱的孩子

“从小到大都没有零花钱,是什么体验?”

曾在知乎上看到上面这个提问,有个网友分享了自己的经历!

他说自己家庭不富裕但也不困难,父母都是事业单位的工薪阶层,但从小除非自己能说出来要买的东西,比如文具等这种必需品,不然父母不可能给自己零花钱。

所以自己从小学到高中,就一直处在一种“比人有我没有”“别人吃着我看着”的状态中。

至于没有零花钱对自己的影响,除了从小到大的自卑感,还有就是自己产生了截然相反的两种极端心理。

即一方面对钱斤斤计较,买啥东西都会各种算计;另一方面,有了钱又特别想买东西,经常发了工资就月光。具体表现就是经常冲动性消费,消费后又各种自责后悔,活得非常累。

傅首尔曾在一档节目中说,自己小时候家里很穷,没有零花钱,有一次看到邻居爷爷家桌子上有放的钱,于是就想偷偷拿一张去买雪糕。

但万幸的是邻居爷爷发现了她的行为,不但没有责怪她,反而耐心的教她,让她意识到自己的错误,不要因为一时贪念做出不道德的行为。

俗话说物极必反,一旦孩子的欲望被过度压制,他必定会找个渠道释放。如果这个渠道是偷,那后果将不堪设想。

所以,限制孩子的零花钱,会不会让孩子养成节约的习惯我不知道。但事实证明,父母过度限制孩子的零花钱,真的有很大的可能会对孩子的心理产生一定的影响。

比如,引发孩子的自卑感;让孩子产生不健康的消费行为,比如偷窃;影响孩子未来的价值观和消费观念等。

2)有零花钱的孩子

中国人民大学储殷教授说:“一定要给孩子零花钱,孩子买东西用自己的零花钱,由自己做主。因为任何选择都意味着失去,这样孩子们一定程度上可以控制自己的欲望。在他们的生活中充满数学,能够提高解决数学应用题的能力。同时,还能提升社交能力。”

自打女儿二年级暑假学会花零花钱,到现在,已有一年半的时间。这一年半里,我每天都会给她1元或者2元的林花钱,让她自由支配。

刚开始的两三个月,她每天都会花光我给她的钱。但后来,她便慢慢的花一半钱,攒一半钱,攒到一定的程度,再买一个贵一点的东西,甚至在我过生日的时候,给我买了个五六十元的小礼物。时至今日,她不仅改掉了以往“见啥要啥”的坏习惯,还学会了做规划!

回忆起童年时光,最开心的回忆,莫过于跟小朋友们一起吃唐僧肉、老冰棍、无花果等各种小零食。

虽然小时候,家里经济条件有限,爸妈给的零花钱不多,但恰是这一点点零花钱,使得我们可以跟更多的小朋友们,一起去小卖铺买自己喜爱的东西,跟小伙伴交换分享,谈天说地,这种满足感,现在回想起来仍会让我嘴角上扬。

所以,从小就有零花钱的孩子,并不会像大家想的那样,养成乱花钱的习惯,反而会让他们在实践中学会如何管理自己的财务,比如,如何制定预算、如何储蓄、如何投资等。培养他们的决策能力和自我控制力。

同时,通过与他人的交易和沟通,孩子们的社交能力也能得到提升,对他们的个人成长也具有积极意义。

孩子的零花钱,多大给?给多少?

闺蜜说,在女儿二年级的时候,她曾给过女儿零花钱,但钱放在女儿书包里一个多月都没花出去,所以打那以后,她就再也没给过女儿零花钱了。

现实生活中,很多家长其实都是愿意给孩子零花钱的,但多大给?给多少?一直困扰着他们,也是导致他们迟迟不给孩子零花钱的一个重要原因。

其实,给孩子零花钱的具体年龄并不是固定的,一般都会因人而异,但通常建议在孩子开始有消费需求和认知能力时,比如,孩子主动的要求要零花钱时,家长可以适当地给予零花钱。

一般来说,多数孩子在7-8岁左右开始对零花钱有需求,因为在这个年龄段,孩子开始对物品有更多的认知和购买欲望。

至于给孩子多少零花钱,这更是无法确定的,而是应该根据家庭的经济情况来决定的。如果家里条件好,那可以适当的多给点,如果经济条件不好,少给点也没什么。

重要的是,家长在给孩子零花钱之前,应先给孩子传授一些关于钱的知识,比如钱是哪里来的?钱的价值是什么?如何正确的使用和管理金钱等等,培养他们正确的理财观念和消费意识。

有条件的家庭,也可以适当地教给孩子一些基本的理财知识,比如,如何计划预算、如何理性消费、如何储蓄等等。这样可以帮助孩子更好地管理自己的零花钱,同时也培养了他们的财商和独立性。

总之,父母要做的就是根据孩子的认知能力和行为习惯,给予孩子适当的引导和教育,确保孩子在消费过程中形成正确的价值观。

【最后写给家长的话】

父母是孩子的启蒙老师,也是孩子成长的终身老师!

父母养育孩子,凡事都不能怕麻烦一刀切,给孩子零花钱也是如此,不可不给,不可滥给!

只要我们肯在教育上多下功夫,教会孩子合理的规划自己的花费,根据自己需求做出明智的消费,学会珍惜自己所需的物品,给总比不给好!

当然,如果家庭条件有限,实在没办法给,我们更应与孩子交流,帮助他们理解家庭的经济状况,教育他们以积极的态度面对生活中的挑战。这样才能避免没有零花钱的童年,对他们的心理所产生的种种负面影响。

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